hay girls, what do you yourself like in a guy?

Category: Dating and Relationships

Post 1 by leader of wolves (Generic Zoner) on Sunday, 12-Feb-2012 10:14:02

hello there,
i just thought it'd be cool just to see what you girls like to see in a guy. whether it's something you like, something that makes you happy, or something that just turns you on. it can be anything! let's have fun with this shall we?

Post 2 by softy5310 (Fuzzy's best angel) on Thursday, 16-Feb-2012 5:15:09

There are many things I like in a guy. If they are a good listener, they score points with me. If their personality is similar to mine, they score more points. can they be funny? Do they have a lot of the same interests and hobbies as I do? I could go on and on. I think you're talking primarily physical traits here however. if I'm talking to a guy, the first thing I notice is their voice. I also like guys who have hair on their heads. Doesn't have to be long, but if it's soft, I really like that. I also love soft skin.
Take Care,
Dawnielle

Post 3 by leader of wolves (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 16-Feb-2012 7:53:00

you can post about any kind of trate you want. phisical or mental or emotional.

Post 4 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Thursday, 16-Feb-2012 12:50:20

I quite like really inteligent guys. I'm not saying the majority of guys are dumb idiots, but when a guy can speak his mind, and, if asked, why, can give an answer that you can't argue with, I quite like that. the same applies to when a guy can hold his own on the questioning side of a debate as well.

i quite enjoy a good sense of humor as well, especially if it's so good that they can make me laugh even if I'm not in the best of moods.

I also definitely like a guy who will stop at nothing to stick up for something or someone he believes in, particularly himself.

O, and by the way, everything I mentioned liking in a guy, I also like in a girl.

Post 5 by softy5310 (Fuzzy's best angel) on Saturday, 18-Feb-2012 1:10:52

Same here, I'm with you on a lot of that, guys and girls alike.

Post 6 by Sword of Sapphire (Whether you agree with my opinion or not, you're still gonna read it!) on Saturday, 18-Feb-2012 18:56:13

I like a guy to be funny, intelligent, and caring. He needs to have a very crass sense of humor as I do. I also like guys who have no problem carrying out deep discussions, especially about profound or controversial topics.

Post 7 by redgirl34 (Scottish) on Sunday, 19-Feb-2012 17:32:41

What I like is tall, quiet spoken, make me laugh.

Post 8 by mabelinr123 (Account disabled) on Tuesday, 01-May-2012 13:15:06

I like a guy with patience, gentleness willingness to do anything for me and n who will love me for me and who will never say no and who's also a good listener and kind and who will love me no matter what flaws or not.

Post 9 by Lisa's Girl forever (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Friday, 04-May-2012 5:22:26

i like a guy. that is nice kind funny has a nice body. a>d etc. a>d and that can make me laugh.

Post 10 by SilverLightning (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Friday, 04-May-2012 7:12:08

I'm curious what you meant by "never say no" mabelinr123. Usually if a girl lists that, she's planning on asking for something most people would say no too. To what are you afraid of being told no?

Post 11 by HauntedReverie (doing the bad mango) on Friday, 04-May-2012 8:19:15

I like a tall guy with dark hair in a ponytail dressed head to toe in leather.

Now putting down the romance novel...

I like honesty and frankness. Playing head games or trying to hide behind one barrier or another is stupid and is a waste of time. I have a dirty sarcastic and mean sense of humor, and it's helpful if my other half isn't easily offended by my dry amusement. I like somebody who isn't afraid to admit he likes dorky things, someone who is comfortable enough with himself to admit his flaws.

I like a guy who is taller than me, bigger than me, and is able to pick me up off the ground. I also like a guy who aims high for the future and who values education, animals, and being a generally good person.

Glad I found him four years ago!

Post 12 by mabelinr123 (Account disabled) on Sunday, 06-May-2012 15:49:52

well i mean if i ask hin to do something that he won't say no

Post 13 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Monday, 07-May-2012 7:55:24

is that really fair? I mean, I can understand the basics: Can you help me with housework (if you're living together), can you communicate with me at least once a day. I understand that stuff, but they should be your boyfriend/girlfriend; not your slave. If that's what you're looking for, more power to you, but good luck finding it.

Post 14 by starfly (99956) on Tuesday, 08-May-2012 8:33:24

mabelinr123
hmm... sounds like your looking for someone who will do anything you ask at the snap of your fingers, good luck finding it. To be fear I like helping my mate, will cook for her if she does not feel good, has had a crappy day. I however, will notbe bee someone's slave nor will jump at there becking call.

Post 15 by HauntedReverie (doing the bad mango) on Tuesday, 08-May-2012 8:59:49

I'm sure she was kidding... chill

Post 16 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Tuesday, 08-May-2012 22:10:56

If we assumed that she was kidding, we would, by that logic, have to assume the same for all such posts on any topic. for the sake of discussion, I'm not going to assume that until she, or any other poster in question, indicates somehow that it was meant as a joke. I've seen a fair few sarcastic posts around, but unless I'm just missing something here, this one certainly didn't appear that way.

Post 17 by Siriusly Severus (The ESTJ 1w9 3w4 6w7 The Taskmaste) on Friday, 24-Aug-2012 23:07:10

imagine Howard roark, probably something like that, haha! but yeah, well

lets see....

quite intellectual, will contribute something to the world, intellectual but kind and self-interested, and does not do it to prove that he's better, creative, self-driven, works hard, has a good job, and good at his trade and skills. individualistic, preferably on the right, preferably a christian, shares a lot of my values and believes, and yeah like that.

Post 18 by TechnologyUser2012 (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Saturday, 25-Aug-2012 20:56:19

someone who's honest, caring, respectful, loyal, smart, funny, preferably college educated like me but as long as he/she has a good job and earns enough money to live comfortably that is fine.

Post 19 by Dolce Eleganza (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Thursday, 21-Mar-2013 4:47:02

I like a guy who is different than me, if he's interested in world afairs, if he doesn't act smarter than me and makes me feel stupid, romantic, sfontanious, faithful, overwhelmingly affectionate, cultural, funny, respectful who cares if people don't think he's cute, for if he truly loves me, he'll be absolutely precious to my heart and own my pure chast soul

Post 20 by loves animals (This site is so "educational") on Monday, 24-Jun-2013 6:47:01

i like a man who is good at listening and likes to be effectionate, is kind to human kind as well as with animals and has a good sense of humor.
Now relistically you can't get a man who will say yes to every thing because that is just not possible and i agree it is like using them as if they are a slave and they are not.

Post 21 by Bamm (Newborn Zoner) on Thursday, 22-Aug-2013 0:25:08

Someone at least on my intelligence level, mature, fun, same height-tall, nice body, unique personality and style, adventurous and outgoing. Someone who isn't too clingy but can have those moments of intimacy.

Post 22 by Maiden of the Moonlight (Zone BBS is my Life) on Thursday, 22-Aug-2013 18:59:25

On a completely shallow level, (And I'm going extremely shallow here, to the point of somewhat unrealistic and not altogether that important) I prefer my guy to have at least enough sight that, when I walk into a room with a new outfit, or dressed up for a special occasion, he can say, only by looking at me, that I am beautiful. He must be taller than me by at least a couple inches, preferably much more, and not fat. I don't much care if he's super buff or anything. Oh, and it would be quite nice if he knew his way around the female anatomy. On a more profound note, he's got to be motivated/driven and ambitious, pursuing or planning on pursuing a college education and a decent career, dog lover, shares my silly sense of humor, good conversationalist, enjoys his drink responsibly (one of us has to,) gets along with my friends, respects and gets along with my parents and brothers, treats me with the utmost respect always, and just a fun person all around. I like to go out and do things. I need someone who won't just wanna lay around all day. Luckily for me, I also found someone to fit all my "requirements," and we've been together for almost three years. Yay!

Post 23 by loves animals (This site is so "educational") on Friday, 23-Aug-2013 8:02:44

good to hear you have found some one that has all the things you were looking for, smiles.

Post 24 by Leafs Fan (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Friday, 23-Aug-2013 10:17:48

Way to go Sarah!

Post 25 by michellemhs (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 19-Sep-2013 3:31:43

Physically, the first thing I notice about men are their lips. I like a man with luscious, almost feminine-like lips. I also like a man with firm buttocks. :-)

Post 26 by HotMochaMama (Account disabled) on Monday, 30-Sep-2013 17:40:25

laid back, got a good job or least a stable one smart, watnz kidz, funny of course, similar taste in mzik as me, loves spicy food won't hurt, sexy

Post 27 by basketballfreakslive (Veteran Zoner) on Tuesday, 15-Jul-2014 14:17:19

girls like guys that can spell. Not someone who eats hay.

Post 28 by Imprecator (The Zone's Spelling Nazi) on Tuesday, 15-Jul-2014 14:46:47

i lik gurlz woh can spel 2

Post 29 by loves animals (This site is so "educational") on Thursday, 17-Jul-2014 6:22:46

i would like the guy to not only have sex on his mind and would like him to be affectionate like be able to give hugs and stuff.

Post 30 by Imprecator (The Zone's Spelling Nazi) on Friday, 18-Jul-2014 4:48:38

So you wouldn't date a guy with no arms? Ya big meany. Hehehe.

Post 31 by LeoGuardian (You mean there is something outside of this room with my computer in it?) on Friday, 18-Jul-2014 11:37:55

RE: the "only sex on his mind" fallacy:
What you're saying is you want a person with a sex drive that matches yours, not exceeds.
I had a male acquaintance who told me his wife only had housework on her mind. That that is all she thought about: he should do the dishes, do the laundry, etc. etc.
So, as a man who actually does do a lot of the housework, I asked. How much time does it really take? Is it really all she has on her mind? I do the dishes. Twice a day, fifteen minutes max per time, since I don't have a dishwasher. That is 1/48 of my day at the most. Hardly "all the time". Picking up around the ouse? Running out to pick something up for Her because she's tired? What is that: an hour max every day? Ah, another 1/24.
So the guy I know had the opportunity to be logical and reframe the situation in a more realistic context Qite naturally, his wife can't possibly have had him doing housework on her mind "all the time." I offered to go down the track of considering what is more likely to be on her mind all the time: the guy who tried to cut her off in traffic, the presentation she has to make at work, what does she want for lunch, how are the kids doing in school, and on and on and on. Fortunately, he got the point and moved away from the nursery of "all the time" irrational baby thinking into the elevated state of adulthood on the issue. Might not have happened if he hadn't run into a male who is inclined to do domestic duties without incident -- me.
Oh and as to physical affection? While some humans are more physically affectionate than others, humans do need it. I happen to be on the more affectionate category and my wife on the less affectionate. So I have found ways to take affection from the sound of Her voice and other things.

Post 32 by loves animals (This site is so "educational") on Saturday, 19-Jul-2014 7:35:32

wow you so mis-read that, what I was meaning was that the guy doesn't just talk about sex cause when they do that, to me it is like that is all that is in there vocabulary and are interested in or know a lot about and though it is part of being in a relationship, it isn't the only thing, there is so much more to being with a man, like communication, affection such as hugs, kisses, ect

Post 33 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Saturday, 19-Jul-2014 8:55:30

and, I think what leo was saying, was that sex is a huge part of all that. he's absolutely right about that.

Post 34 by LeoGuardian (You mean there is something outside of this room with my computer in it?) on Saturday, 19-Jul-2014 11:38:04

And nobody only talks about sex, and nobody only thinks about sex. Such infantilized "he
has that on his mind" tantrum talk is fallacious. It's simply a straw man, a windmill to
attack.

Post 35 by loves animals (This site is so "educational") on Monday, 21-Jul-2014 6:05:59

oh wow

Post 36 by LeoGuardian (You mean there is something outside of this room with my computer in it?) on Monday, 21-Jul-2014 13:25:44

You love animals. I love birds. I am privileged to get to hear birds outside my office window.
But often what is on my mind? What I'm doing here at work, what just drove by, where we're going for the weekend.
The human mind is a very very busy place. That's why, when you go to sleep on a problem, you can wake up with a solution. Not magical at all: your inhibitions are down, and your thoughts continue, you continue to percolate on what you were contemplating before you went to bed.
Our minds are so multidimensional, it's hard to ... I don't know, ... get your mind around that?

Post 37 by MusicFan (Generic Zoner) on Monday, 21-Jul-2014 18:25:21

Normally the kind of guys that I like are the tall guys. But the guy that I'm with now is not much taller than I am. I've always liked men with blond hair, and the guy that I'm with now is blond headed. I like guys that have a good sense of humor, who care about others, and who I can talk to about anything and he listens to me. And, I have that in him. We've been dating for a little over a year now.

Post 38 by Siriusly Severus (The ESTJ 1w9 3w4 6w7 The Taskmaste) on Wednesday, 19-Nov-2014 0:05:23

My preferences has shifted a little. If I was interested this would be what I would seek in a man. I know a few men who fits this description

A man who either matches my intelligence or exceeds it. I would be honored to have a learned intellectual man as a lover and hopefully husband. He must fit my values and a majority of interests. He must be a conservative. He must be caring, honest, and other good traits. Sexy, attractive, hot, or other physical qualities are not sought for.

Post 39 by daileyt (Zone BBS Addict) on Friday, 26-Dec-2014 17:23:22

I like a guy who's man enough to keep it real with me. He's got a good head on his shoulders, got to know how to please me in every way, and he knows how to keep me laughing.

Post 40 by forereel (Just posting.) on Saturday, 27-Dec-2014 9:09:45

I think I understand the sex on his mind all the time.
However, when you are near the woman you enjoy, and you start hugging her, well, sex gets on your mind.
What you do about it makes it sex, or just a thought. Any woman I'm interested in, will cause me to think about her in a sexual manner.
Sure, our relationship will have lots more to it, butI'm going to want her.
this has caused issues in relationships I've had, so I understand exactly what she means.
In my opinion, God, mother nature, or whoever, has put her on the earth for me to want.
If I am going to treat her well, enjoy spending time with her, take her out, and do special things for her, and with her, she's going to have to respect sex is going to get on my mind often, when she's near.
Even when she's not, and she crosses my mind.
I'm messing up this topic however.

Post 41 by Angelic Face (Newborn Zoner) on Wednesday, 28-Jan-2015 21:51:36

I like a guy who is sweet, romantic, good listener, cracking jokes, adventurous and always gives time for me. I don't want a guy whose not paying attention to me. I want a guy who is open-minded to anything and understanding, loves happiness and fun. I'm single and I'm looking for the one.

Post 42 by Perestroika (Her Swissness) on Saturday, 31-Jan-2015 18:34:05

I don't really like men who are stuck with the old ideas of what being a man is. I like a guy who isn't afraid to show his feelings and to talk about them.

Post 43 by sia fan bp (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Saturday, 21-Feb-2015 20:43:44

I like a guy with an effervescent personality, good sense of humor, and someone who doesn't care how you look like as long as you have good personality. Also, I'd like a guy to be the type of guy who is always calm, and to be understanding.